It feels really good to just let out what is built up inside of you sometimes. This blog is full of build up and people making judgement. I’m not sure why people think they have the right to judge any part of your life, what you look like or really anything. Judging is like saying who I am, what I do and what I feel is right no matter what. Well it’s not that way.
Over 5 years ago I went into a local store in Firewheel mall. I was shopping for a dress for my daughter. I was weighing in around 290 at that point. The store I’m not gonna give their name but I will say they are very black and white. I walked in after a few minutes I can hear snickers and giggles from the back of the store. I ignored it, I was on a mission to shop and get home. This tall young lady walked up I thought to myself how pretty, then she opened her mouth. “Can I help you? Are you aware we don’t sell big sizes in our store?” I quietly said I’m shopping for my daughter. She gave me a smirk look and walked away. I figured out quickly the two girls were talking about me and my size. I left the store and convinced myself I deserved it because I was so fat. No matter what it hurt and I cried.
Fast forward once again I was insulted by a clerk this past weekend. I went to my eye doctor at Firewheel Mall. After my appointment I went to a store directly across that serve plus size women. Yes I’m aware I don’t wear plus size anymore but I do wear a D-cup and I wanted to see if they had a sports bra I could wear. Very quickly a clerk approached me and she had an attitude. “Can I help you?” Yes I’m looking for a sports bra. “What size do you wear?” I wear a 36D. “We don’t carry any 36, this is a real women store.” All of her remarks were said with such rudeness. Okay so because I lost weight and got healthy I’m not a real women anymore? This insulted me to no end. How rude for her to dismiss me like that. She walked away and not one person approached me after that. I stayed in the store looking just to see if they would try to help me. NOPE not one “is there anything we can do for you”.
I’m just feed up with people and attitude. Why can’t we just allow people to be who they are and not judge. You have no idea what is going on in someones life when they present themselves to you. Both times I was never given a chance, I was sized up and they determined I didn’t fit in their store. Only because they looked at my outer frame and made a choice for me. I really thought that judgment of me was over after I lost weight. I was judged on many occasion because of my obese body. A friend of mine that also had the same surgery also felt judged so many times on her size. I never thought in a million years I would be judged for being fit.
Not matter where you are in your life I guess there will always be judgmental people. We have to stop and let everyone be who they are. Five years ago that young women was no more than 20 or 21 years old. She learned that behavior early on to judge people. The lady this past weekend was in her 30’s and old enough to know better. Yet they both decided to judge me and not give me the respect I needed and deserved. There is no job, money, color of skin, sex or faith belief that make us better, we are all people with a heart and soul. We all deserve to be treated with respect and not be judged.
Well that’s my rant. I’m full up with people who decide they need to make me feel less because of their own rudeness. Life is short so today make a difference in someone life. Give a compliment, smile at someone you don’t know or just be nice to all that come into your daily life. Make it a Blue Happy day for someone. I promise it will make your day blue Happy.
Angie Gerhart
February 28, 2017100% agree. People need to shutty!